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WEEKLY JOURNAL: Excuses Be Gone

No More Excuses

Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant.

– Tony Robbins

Like many of you, I have recently suffered from cedar fever, which turned into an upper respiratory nightmare that lasted for two weeks. Ironically (or you can call it karma), just two days prior to getting sick I was boasting about my flawless health.  Nonetheless, after feeling rotten for so long and experiencing poor health, I quickly felt sympathy for anyone who suffers chronically. It also made me even more eager to get well, begin exercising and start living my full life again. More than anything, even though I was legitimately sick, I was sick and tired of hearing my sick excuses. And somewhere in the process of saying “I’m sick and can’t do _____,” it dawned on me how easy it is to make and use excuses — for anything.

Recently, I’ve quoted from the book The Best Year of Your Life and author Debbie Ford provides excellent insight into what an excuse really is and how they sabotage our future:

Excuses keep us from taking responsibility for our lives and prevent us from seeing the truth about our current reality. They are literally an attempt to ‘excuse’ ourselves from acting like the responsible, powerful, creative human beings we are. Excuses become a socially acceptable way of giving ourselves the ‘out’ we might be looking for. Our excuses scream, ‘It’s not my fault’; ‘I couldn’t help it’; ‘I didn’t have time’; ‘My kids needed me’; That’s not in my job description’; ‘It’s too much work’; I’m too busy’; ‘Everything will fall apart if I don’t do it’. On the surface, these appear to be the truth but on closer examination, if we are wiling to look beyond the ‘I can’t,’ we will see that unless there is a circumstance that makes it physically impossible for us to do what we want to do, it is a form of an excuse. Even if it is justified, it’s still an excuse.

There’s no doubt that excuses can be justified, especially when we or a family member become ill, our job or financial situation takes a turn for the worse or life simply throws a series of curve balls, which is inevitable. With that said, we must determine the importance of experiencing our goal, dream, desire and best life. If it is NOT that important, then we’ll stay where we are and possibly always wonder “what if?” But, if it IS that important, we’ll not let excuses invade our vocabulary and steal our best life. It’s really that simple.

In conclusion, the esteemed counselor and author Wayne Dyer provides nine commonly used excuses, as well as affirmations to help us change our belief about them- and help us live an excuse-free, purposeful and fulfilling life!

  • Excuse: It will be difficult. Affirmation: I have the ability to accomplish any task I set my mind to with ease and comfort.
  • Excuse: It will take a long time. Affirmation: I have infinite patience when it comes to fulfilling my destiny.
  • Excuse: I don’t deserve it. Affirmation: I am a divine creation, therefore I cannot be undeserving.
  • Excuse: I can’t afford it. Affirmation: I am connected to an unlimited source of abundance.
  • Excuse: I am not strong enough. Affirmation: I have access to unlimited assistance.
  • Excuse: I’m too old, or not old enough. Affirmation: The age of my body has no bearing on what I do or who I am.
  • Excuse: It is my personal family history. Affirmation: I live in the present by being grateful for all my life experiences as a child.
  • Excuse: I’m too busy. Affirmation: As I unclutter my life, I free myself to answer the callings of my soul.
  • Excuse: I’m too scared. Affirmation: I can accomplish anything I put my mind to, because I know that I am never alone.

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Point To Ponder:
Do you use excuses (justified or not) as a crutch or a way to avoid taking responsibility for a situation in your life that is worthy of attention?

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Action Item:
Identify the excuses you regularly tell yourself and others. Then, make the decision to stop making excuses and begin acting and reacting in ways that focus on what you can do, regardless of the circumstances.

By Neissa

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WEEKLY JOURNAL: Creating Your Powerful Intent

Don't just wish upon a Dandelion

“Our intention creates our reality.”
-Wayne Dyer

How is it that we are only one week into 2013 and I already feel disorganized and overwhelmed, to the point of near paralysis? To be honest, I have gone from thinking I could conquer the world to now being back to discouraging square one. Is it possible that I was overzealous and set too many haphazard goals in addition to suffering from post holiday blues? Yes!

Since riding the new years high, my life has settled back into the routine, and my unrealistic vision of being incredibly productive (both personally and professionally) with no interruptions, distractions or energy lows has come to a screeching halt. My lists and goals are not getting crossed off near as quickly as I had hoped, and if I am completely transparent,  the truth is that I actually didn’t spend enough time thinking through and prioritizing my goals. Instead, I wrote a million things down, wished upon a dandelion and said GO!

All of this leads me to the big question, which is, once we settle back into our daily routines and that first-of-the-year momentum dies down, how do we get on track and stay focused on our goals, dreams and visions, all the while getting the absolute best out of life?

Besides acknowledging that everyday comes with curve balls and opportunities to get side-tracked and even quit, our first and most important step is simply creating a solid, concrete intent. As Debbie Ford states in The Best Year of Your Life:

Identifying our intent “acts as an organizing principle, guiding you to make powerful choices. It ensures that you are indeed the captain of your own ship, and it gives you power to choose your own destination…If you aren’t making the best possible choices for yourself on a daily basis, if you’re bored, resigned, or struggling; if you’re continually making the same mistakes over and over again — your intent is most likely old, out-of-date, and just not working for you.”

The sample intent that Debbie gives is: “This is the best year of my life.”  Whatever your intent is, in order to make it come true, the most important step is committing to it — and right now.  Everyday remind yourself of this intent and it will begin to inform your behaviors, actions, choices and words.  It will become your personal operating system.

It is very likely that my intent is out-of-date and taking the time to rewrite it will make a momentous difference in my life. So, how about you? What will your powerful intent be? Regardless of what or how you choose to organize your intent, I encourage you to take the time and make at least one related to your most important goal, dream, vision or priority.  And don’t be shy about it either. Let others know so that they can support you — because as we know, accomplishing anything worthwhile takes a village, and it just plain feels better to have some support and encouragement along the way.

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Point To Ponder:
Do you have an intent that will successfully guide your goals, dreams, visions and priorities, or are you simply wishing and hoping for the best?

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Action Item:
Create an intent around your most significant desire for yourself this year.

By Neissa