Tag Archives: self improvement

Do You Love Yourself??

I need to be skinnier love myself.

How we perceive and talk about ourselves directly affects how we love ourselves, love one another and how we allow others to love and treat us. So, let’s keep it simple and be grateful for what we do have and love ourselves, unconditionally!

And now, an eye-opening video that just might alter how you see yourself:

Video: Dove Real Beauty Sketches

Dove Video: Real Beauty Sketches

Link not working? Watch it online here.

Leave a Comment

Dodging Chicken Little

You Have So Much to be Thankful For

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into clarity, problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past…brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.
– Melodie Beattie

I find communication to be a fascinating and powerful tool. There’s no doubt that what we put into our minds is also what we give to the world, which affects every facet of our life. From television, movies, and magazines, to music, books and the conversations we engage in, they all create positive or negative programing, energy and outcomes. One example is the news. I enjoy being up to date on local, national and world news. I feel it’s my civic duty to be educated; however, when I listen or watch too much of it I find myself feeling and sounding more like Chicken Little than the optimistic and grateful person I strive to be. As a result, I put myself on a daily news budget and subscribe to as many encouraging communication outlets as possible.

As we all know and experience, there is no perfect life, as people and the world are not designed this way. However, our ability to wake up every morning, regardless of our current circumstances, and give thanks for what we have rather than focusing on what we want and don’t have, is the key to living a joyful and fulfilling life. Furthermore, there’s no doubt that ‘light attracts light’ and when we focus on light versus darkness, it invites light into our hearts, minds and lives.

As an effort to dodge Chicken Little or expand your current state of gratitude, I urge you to start off your week by answering the Gratitude Assessment questions below, provided by author and motivational speaker Darren Hardy. Then, place your answers in a location that can be seen throughout the day and week. There’s no doubt that if you take the time to fill out your Gratitude Assessment questions on a regular basis, your mindset and relationships will improve and your life will take a positive turn that will lead to better days, weeks, months, and years!

Gratitude Assessment

Three amazing people in my life are:

Three great things about my physical body are:

Three great things about my home and where I live are:

Three great things about where I work and what I do for a living are:

Three great gifts of unique talent and skill I have been given are:

Three great gifts of knowledge and experience I have been given are:

Three ways I have experienced “luck” in my life are:

Three ways in which my life is wealthy, abundant and prosperous are:

– – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – –

Point To Ponder:
Which do you fixate more on and therefore allow your life to be most impacted by: thunderstorms or rainbows?

– – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – – –

Action Item:
Fill out the Gratitude Assessment questions and stay focused on all of the good that fills your life.

To your health,

Neissa

About Neissa

Leave a Comment

Don’t Break Your Chain

Don't Break the Chain

It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday.
– Unknown

A few weeks ago, an iGnite Member sent me a quote, which happens to be our quote-of-the-week. I thought it was a brilliant quote, as the pressure of being ‘the best’ is overwhelming, daunting, and requires a winner and loser.  The idea of striving to be better everyday is personal and less competitive, making the goal much more achievable and enjoyable. At the time, I knew I wanted to incorporate the quote into a journal entry, but I wasn’t exactly sure how it would happen, as my intention is to let each entry grow organically and authentically. Sure enough, just as I was thinking about how I would use the quote, I ran across an article by Darren Hardy featuring Jerry Seinfield. This is what it said:

A young comic asked Jerry Seinfeld if he had any tips for him starting out as a comic. What he told the young comic would benefit him for a lifetime. Seinfeld told the comic that the way to be a better comic was to create better jokes. And the way to create better jokes was to write every day.
But his advice went further. He explained a technique that he uses to keep himself motivated, even when he doesn’t feel like it. Jerry explained the calendar system he uses to pressure himself to write. Here’s how it works:
He said, “Get a big wall calendar that has a whole year on one page and hang it on a prominent wall. Maybe somewhere your family can see or your office mates. The next step is to get a red magic marker. For each day you complete the task of writing, put a big red X over that day. After a few days you’ll have a chain. Just keep at it and the chain will grow longer every day. You’ll like seeing that chain, especially when you get a few weeks under your belt. Your only job next is to not break the chain.”
Seinfeld understands that daily action yields greater benefits than sitting down and trying to knock out 300 jokes in one day. This calendar system works because it visually reinforces us to stick with that consistent daily action. Skipping one day makes it easier to skip the next.

The visual of not breaking the chain resonates with me. Each consecutive day I don’t break my chain will allow me to be better than the day before, just as the quote states. In addition, every day that I take action towards my goal will strengthen my ability to be my best, and will build discipline and positive momentum for my goal and my life in general.

Honestly, I have not chosen my goal, habit, or positive action yet; however, I have come up with a multitude of positive actions that, if implemented everyday, would lead to incredible results. For example: drink 64 oz. of water a day, take my vitamins, tell my family I love them, write a note to a friend, exercise, pray, journal, get 7-9 hours of sleep each night, eat at home vs. eat out…

Literally, the list is infinite, but as Jerry suggests, “just choose one and purchase your wall calendar and a red magic marker.” Then, start your objective and don’t break your chain to being your best and better than you were yesterday.

————————-

Point To Ponder:

If implemented everyday, what habit, behavior or action would make the greatest impact on your life?

————————-

Action Item:

Determine your habit, behavior, or action. Then purchase your wall calendar, red marker and start your chain!

To your health,

About Neissa

Neissa

Leave a comment

WEEKLY JOURNAL: Turning Obstacles Into Opportunities

See Sunshine in Shadows

Success is when you realize obstacles you face are challenges to help you become better- and your response equals the challenge.
– Stephen Covey

Recently, my husband and I have found ourselves in a frustrating yet common parenting place. Our son is 26 months old and testing his boundaries in all the ways that toddlers do. Being first-time parents, we of course are concerned with our discipline style and curious if our technique is too stern or relaxed. My sister, who has thankfully trail-blazed this path before me, recommended a great book called Boundaries With Kids. Needless to say, I immediately began reading it in hope to gain wisdom.

After only reading the first chapter, the book has already shed light on some of my questions. What I’ve realized most is that we (parents and child) are experiencing obstacles, and even though they are annoying and exhausting, they are necessary for my son’s future growth, development and maturity. Furthermore, and regardless of age, the blessing of obstacles remains the same, as they are the stepping stones for our future success.

Author Harvey Mackay says it best in following story:

A man was walking in the park one day when he came upon a cocoon with a small opening. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through the little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It looked like it had gotten as far as it could, so the man decided to help the butterfly. He used his pocketknife and snipped the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily, but something was strange. The butterfly had a swollen body and shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected at any moment the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened. In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and deformed wings. It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to emerge was natural. It was nature’s way of forcing fluid from its body into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives.

If we were allowed to go through life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly.

History has shown us that the most celebrated winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.

Thomas Edison tried over 2,000 experiments before he was able to get his light bulb to work. Upon being asked how he felt about failing so many times, he replied, “I never failed once. I invented the light bulb. It just happened to be a 2,000-step process.

Helen Keller, the famous deaf-blind author and lecturer, said: “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. Silver is purified in fire and so are we. It is in the most trying times that our real character is shaped and revealed.”

As an adult, encountering obstacles is interesting, as we no longer have a parent to redirect us or tell us ‘no.’ Instead, we get to choose our behaviors, attitudes and actions around them and either turn obstacles into opportunities, or not. Moving forward, the big question is: will you view your obstacles with a defeated mentality or face them head on and see them as necessary opportunities for nature to take you where you need to grow and succeed?

———————————–

Point To Ponder:
What current obstacles can you turn into opportunities?

———————————–

Action Item:
Determine the obstacle that has the greatest opportunity to positively impact your life. Take responsibility for the obstacle, change your attitude around it and make the decision to turn it into a successful situation.

To your health,

Neissa

About Neissa

Leave a comment

POINT TO PONDER: How Open Are You to Change?

Life Gets Better by Change

Change is difficult, this we all know — but it is a necessity for true life change.

How willing are you to make changes in your life?

Life is Like Flying a Kite

Fly Like a Kite

The worst thing one can do is to not try, to be aware of what one wants and not give in to it, to spend years in silent hurt wondering if something would have materialized – never knowing.        – Jim Rohn

by Neissa Springmann

by Neissa Springmann

There’s no doubt that March has come in like a roaring lion here in Austin, making for ideal kite flying conditions. So, this morning my son and I did just that — flew a Spiderman kite.  As the winds whipped, Spidey enjoyed several joy rides. He soared right, left, up, down and even found himself in a tree (a time or twelve). There were also plenty of times when he took sharp nose dives into the ground, at which we’d pick him up, throw him into the air and try again. It was during our many failed attempts to have Spiderman fly for an extended and uninterrupted amount of time that I began to see the parallels between life and flying a kite.

Life is like flying a kite. We can wait for the perfect conditions to pursue life-long desires, dreams, interests or to simply try something new, however there will always be extreme winds that temporarily throw us off course and even into the ground. We will also experience times of no wind at all, leaving us with little hope that the ideal opportunity will arise for us to fly. The truth is that as long as we are living, flying is a possibility, a choice that we get to make. We can embrace and even appreciate the sharp and unexpected turns and know that they are part of the ebb and flow process, or, we can allow the nose dives to harden our hearts, leaving us with the ongoing and defeated question of ‘what might have been?’  Either way, it is a choice, it is yours, and that’s the good news.

I leave you with this simple yet profound poem. I hope you choose to fly!

“I never can do it,” the little kite said,
as he looked around at the others high over his head.
“I know I should fall if I try to fly.”
“Try,” said the big kite, “only try!
Or I fear you never will learn at all.”
But the little kite said, “I’m afraid I’ll fall.”
The big kite nodded: “Ah well, goodbye:
I’m off,” and he rose toward the tranquil sky.
Then the little kite’s paper stirred at the sky.
And trembling he shook himself free for flight.
First whirling and frightened, then braver grown,
up, up he rose through the air alone,
till the big kite looking down could see,
the little one rising steadily.
Then how the little kite thrilled with pride,
as he sailed with the big kite, side by side!
While far below he could see the ground,
and the boys like small spots, moving around.
They rested high in the quiet air,
and only the birds and the clouds were there.
“Oh, how happy I am!” the little kite cried,
“And all because I was brave and tried.”

Author Unknown

————————
Point To Ponder:
Are you waiting for the perfect conditions to try something new or chase one of your dreams?

————————
Action Item:
Just do it! Don’t wait any longer and FLY!

WEEKLY JOURNAL: Living with Purpose and Passion

What do you want your legacy to be?

“You need to know what life you want (as well as what life you don’t want). Then you have to muster up the will and drive to go after it.”

– Bob Greene

Yesterday was our New Year, New You holistic women’s wellness retreat at Barton Creek Country Club. The day kicked off with exercise, breakfast and then four fantastic, inspirational and extremely knowledgeable speakers. Pam Owens, a married mother of two young children and owner of consulting firm Edge of Your Seat spoke first. I met Pam last spring after attending two intimate women’s conferences where she both spoke and served as the event facilitator. Pam’s approach to life is candid, compassionate and hysterical, which I have grate appreciation for.

Pam presented on Living with Purpose and Passion, and as always I am still thinking about her thought provoking and introspective questions — 36 hours later. I’ve included her worksheet below, as I believe living with purpose and passion is the way we all should strive to live, everyday of our life. And, as a result of Pam’s wisdom, it occurred to me that I can have more than one purpose/passion — which I do. Ridiculously, I’ve placed self-imposed rules around my purpose/passion, so it was freeing to know that not only can I have several, but they can morph and change too!

Furthermore, in pursuit of achieving joy and finding our purpose and passion, Pam asked us to identify three things that we would absolutely NOT be willing to give up, as well as three things that we need to starting saying NO to immediately. I loved this exercise, because not only do we need to know what we want out of life, but we also must be willing to acknowledge what we don’t want. It sounds simple, but answering these questions will guide our joy and provide clarity for our purpose and passions.

Below is the content of the worksheet. I hope you’ll take the time to answer the questions and explore your purpose, passion(s) and joy!

Complete the following sentences and/or answer the following questions:

  • What do you want your legacy to be?
  • How do you define success?
  • My 3 strengths are…
  • When was the last time you felt pure joy? What were you doing?
  • What I like doing the most is…
  • What is Passion? (in your own words…)
  • What are 3 things that you are absolutely NOT willing to give up?
  • What are 3 things that you need to start saying NO to, immediately?

The Roadblocks:  Which box do you check all too often?

___Less Than    ___Jealousy           ___I can’t do it    ___I’m not good enough
___Victim           ___Comparison    ___Lonely             ___Guilt/Regret

Road Test: How do I know if I’m loving my life with passion and purpose?

  1. You are totally obsessed with what you are doing
  2. You can’t stop talking about what you get to create and do everyday
  3. You feel it in your gut without a doubt, an underlying belief that this IS definitely what you’re meant to do.
  4. You wake up ready to take on the day in a new way, leaving what may have happened yesterday in its place so you can be fully present today.
  5. Resilience is your middle name.
  6. You shock yourself occasionally with just how good something you did really is!
  7. Things just seem to become effortless and fall into place.
  8. You can stay focused on what you want to accomplish regardless of the distraction.
  9. Your faith or belief in something bigger than you allows you to stay balanced on your journey.

————————————————————————-
Point To Ponder:
Are you living everyday with purpose, passion, and joy?

————————————————————————-

Action Item:
Answer the questions in the journal above and see where they take you!

Neissa Springmann

By Neissa