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I Love You, Because…

Loving Yourself & Others, Part II

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“I love you like crazy, baby, ‘Cuz I’d go crazy without you.”
-Pixie Foundre

Point to Ponder:
When was the last time you told someone not just that you love them, but why you love them??

by Neissa Brown Springmann

by Neissa Brown Springmann

Personalities are interesting — in my family, my mom and I have no problem expressing our emotions and saying, ‘I love you.’ Outwardly, we are more emotionally expressive and the thought of not telling someone we love ‘I love you’ feels really bad.  On the flip-side, my dad and sister are the opposite and hold their emotions much closer to their hearts. They do say “I love you”, but most of the time it comes as a response to being told “I love you” and their response is “I love you, too.” There was a time when I took this personally and didn’t understand, but I’ve learned that we have our own comfort levels with love and thanks to the book The Five Love Languages, I’ve learned that we all express love differently.

After giving the words “I love you” some thought, I do think telling the people we love “I love you” on a regular basis is very important, but what I think would be more meaningful for both the giver and receiver is telling the people we love why we love them.

Because saying “I love you” can be a phrase that is used routinely, and writing “I love you” and signing our name on a purchased Hallmark card can be an easy way out, wouldn’t it be nice if the people we love received a note from us stating why we love them? I tried this out on my son Durant last week, and while he’s only four years old, his face lit up when I told him why I loved him and then we both got the giggles, followed by a hug and kiss. If you have a teenager, he or she might roll their eyes, but deep down they will appreciate it, a lot. And it will most definitely make the day of any adult.

So, in the spirit of loving yourself and loving others, I invite you to join me in telling the special people in your life why you love them by giving them one of these special Love Notes.

For some added love humor, I really recommend you watch Will Ferrell, Jimmy Fallon and Kevin Hart perform a few love songs that will have you rolling and in stitches. It’s a love performance you won’t want to miss!

Action Item:
Print, fill out and give the people you love a special iGnite Love Note, telling them why you love them.

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Making Every Day, a Great Day

It's a Good Day to Have a Good Day

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
– Abraham Lincoln

Do you ever wish that making every day a great day was as simple as waking up and pushing a button? Well, having a life filled with great days may not be as easy as pushing a button, but it is possible by implementing a few simple principles.

As I referenced in last week’s Journal, I subscribe to several positive and uplifting outlets that help me stay grateful, centered and encouraged even when things are legitimately bad, as we all experienced last week during the Boston and West tragedies. One such subscription is Success Magazine, and according to Chris Widener of Success Magazine, having a ‘great day, every day outlook’ must become part of our routine. And, while there will never be a day without some kind of setback, discouragement or unmet expectation, we cannot react to these circumstances. Instead, we must remain disciplined in implementing the following ‘great day principles:’

  • Focus on today only. Yes, long-range goals are important. But our focus must be on today. Don’t worry about tomorrow. Make today the best day you have ever had. Realize that when you lay down to sleep tonight you will have just given up the only shot you will ever have at today. You only get one shot at your today, so focus intently on making it all that it possibly can be.
  • Embrace your power to choose. Dwight D. Eisenhower said, “The history of free men is never written by chance but by choice—their choice.” When your today becomes your yesterday, you will look back and realize that day was a result of your choices. The moment we realize that we can exercise…free will and choice is when we begin to create for ourselves a GREAT day each and every day! Take ownership of the direction of your life. Make your choices and carry them out!
  • Your attitude is up to you. Yes, bad things may happen in your day. When something happens to you, you have the choice: Will you let it get you down and depressed, keeping you from forging ahead and making the day the best one ever? Or will you say to yourself that, no matter what happens, you are on the path to success and no obstacle will keep you from it?
  • Live out and act on your priorities. If we want to make our days great, then we have to live out those things that will by definition make our days great. They are our priorities. So, each morning, start out by asking, What things are important to me today? What are the things I need to accomplish in order for me to lay down tonight and know that I lived a GREAT day? Don’t do what is fun. Don’t do what is easy. Do what is IMPORTANT! Live out your priorities.

What do you say? Will you press the ‘great day button’ with me and begin the journey of making every day a great day? The habit may not be as easy as pushing a button, but by consciously focusing on controlling our choices and attitude we will ultimately create fulfilling minutes, happy hours, and gratifying days!

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Point To Ponder:
Do you allow daily circumstances to affect your outlook and ability to have a great day?

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Action Item:
Despite daily circumstance, make the choice to wake up every day and make it a great day!

To your  health,

Neissa

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Do You Love Yourself??

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How we perceive and talk about ourselves directly affects how we love ourselves, love one another and how we allow others to love and treat us. So, let’s keep it simple and be grateful for what we do have and love ourselves, unconditionally!

And now, an eye-opening video that just might alter how you see yourself:

Video: Dove Real Beauty Sketches

Dove Video: Real Beauty Sketches

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