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Embrace “The Juggle”

Inspiration from the iGnite Archives

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As the summer is coming to an end and the shift to back to school and more activity is happening, we are embracing The Juggle.  Our inspiration is from a blog post from a few years back. We encourage you to read it again and determine your priorities and goals, set some realistic expectations and practice patience in the moments when it’s not all going according to plan.

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The Third Metric

How do you define success?

by Pam Owens

by Pam Owens

I’ve been successful. That kind of “check the box” successful.  I’ve always been a pretty good student, excelled in college and graduated with a perfect GPA from graduate school while working three jobs —  one that had me traveling 40% of the time. I married the best guy ever who I grew up with and met in church, and launched a successful business that has sustained for years. We built a home, had two amazing children, are the first line of support to our aging parents and volunteer in the community.

Check, check, check!  I’ve checked all of the boxes. I did it “right” and in the “right” order. The problem was, I was not present for any of those activities. I was a spectator in my own life, and my definition of success (the one that society has truly thrust on all of us) had me fooled.

Then I realized that if I was going to get it right for the next quarter of my life, I had to enter into the third metric. Simply put: I had to redefine what success and well-being looked like for me. What about you? How do you “show up” everyday? Still checking those boxes? Come to the Intentional Renewal Retreat and figure your true definition of success… and walk away changed.

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Pam OwensPam Owens is President and CEO at Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc. and is a featured speaker at iGnite’s Intentional Renewal wellness retreat in February 2014.  Back by popular demand, Pam’s authentic, passionate and hysterical take on life is something all women can benefit from. As a wife, mother of two, business owner and speaker, Pam understands the importance of taking the necessary time each day to nurture oneself so you can be your best.   Known for her no-nonsense communication style, Pam has toured the U.S. for the last 16 years delivering customized training, strategic planning, fundraising consulting, keynote speaking and executive coaching for corporate clients, school districts, non-profits, higher education institutions, religious entities, and small businesses.  Join us at the Intentional Renewal Retreat and learn more about putting the “third metric” into practice in your life.

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The Juggle

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You can have it all, just not all at the same time. -Pam Owens

Point To Ponder:
Do you continually feel like you are falling short of your expectations?
Could it be because you’re trying to “have it all,” all at once?

Action Item:
Make it a point this week to embrace “the juggle.” Determine your priorities and goals, set yourself some realistic expectations and practice patience in the moments when it’s not all going according to plan.

By Neissa Springmann

By Neissa Springmann

In May, I attended a women’s leadership conference in Dallas called Power Pipeline. Power Pipeline is one of many programs run by Women’s Resources, a 35-year-old nonprofit educational corporation. Through leadership and legacy, their mission is to connect, inspire, empower and honor Texas women leaders. In fact, Governor Ann Richards was one of the founders, and her grit and passion for life is clearly reflected in the zest and charisma of Women’s Resources.

One year prior, my mother also attended the program and gave it glowing recommendations, so I knew it was something I not only wanted to do, but I had to do… For ME!  At this particular time, I was also having a difficult time managing my expectations with “the juggle,” a.k.a. the life/work balancing act that was stressing me out.

On Friday, as I left my husband Russell and son Durant at home for the drive to Dallas, I struggled with the guilt of leaving them for a weekend. I knew better than to let negative emotions and toxic thoughts fill my heart and mind, so I gave my spirit a good talking to and reminded her that I would be a better mom, wife and leader by attending this program — and that I deserved it! In addition, I told the enemy voice to take a hike and that I wasn’t going to let her steal my joy.

Worrying is like a rocking chair- it gives us something to do but takes us absolutely nowhere! -Van Wilder

As you might expect, within the first thirty minutes of attending Power Pipeline I knew I was where I needed to be. The group was intimate, diverse and fun. The leaders created a comfortable environment, and before long everyone was connecting and coming to the realization that we all were in the same life boat — doing our very best to successfully paddle upstream, while keeping our families, friends and careers afloat.

All in all, the entire weekend experience was incredible and every segment was outstanding; however, there were two particular breakthrough, ah-ha! moments:

The first came as a result of Sarah Fontenot, an overachieving nurse-turned-lawyer who also happens to be married with three grown sons, has multiple sclerosis (MS) and teaches Health Law at Trinity University (gasp!). Her mother was a visionary who taught her to shoot for the stars and reject taking no for an answer. Therefore, as the themes of guilt and the life/work balance continued throughout the weekend, Sarah recalled a time in her young professional life when she was feeling guilty for spending time away from her family to work and pursue her passion. So, she called her mother and expressed her guilt — hoping to receive sympathy — when her mother declared, “Do NOT put your guilt on MY grandchildren!”

OUCH! What a powerful comment?! While it took me aback, it also spoke to me. Guilt, fear and shame do not serve our families, friends, or careers. In fact, they are life-sucking emotions that prevent us from experiencing joy. Therefore, I determined that am not going to feel guilty for loving my career or pursing my passions, but in the same breath, I have to remember the next and very important quote from Pam Owens, which puts everything together.

Pam Owens is Women’s Resources Creative Director. She is a professionally-driven, married mother of two young children and lives in Round Rock. Towards the end of the conference she gave us the opportunity to ask final questions, and of course, the life/work balance question came up again. She then proceeded with our quote-of-the-week which is, “You CAN have it all, just not all at the same time.”

Eureka, I finally got it! I CAN have it all, but I have to accept that everyday is going to be different. One day I may be able to achieve my exercise goals, but fall short on my professional agenda. Or, one day might be the perfect personal and professional day, while my exercise goals are sacrificed. Most importantly, I must keep my priorities in line. These are my faith, family and friends, and they cannot be comprised.

Enjoying dear friends, the beloved outdoors and fun fitness in the Escape Hike!

Since May, I’ve become much better at managing my expectations and am understanding that I can have it all. In addition, I’ve realized that as long as I am passionately pursuing life, each day is going to be a juggling act and some balls are going to drop. However, the key is to make a committed effort and pick up the dropped balls and try again, ensuring that the same balls are not dropped day after day.

Finally, as we say good-bye to summer and enter the fall season, I encourage you to take a deep breath and embrace “the juggle.”

    1. Determine your priorities and goals
    2. Manage your expectations
    3. Remember that you can have it all, just not at the same time.
    4. And, speaking of expectations (and to leave you with a good laugh to start your week), you should NOT expect to do any of the exercises displayed in this week’s video during iGnite classes, unless you’re dancing with Betty — where anything is possible!

 

JOIN THE DISCUSSION-What ball do you keep dropping and struggle to pick back up? 

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