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Believe in Miracles, Rejoice in Each Day & Have Fun!

Inspiration from the iGnite Archives: Originally published Feb 12, 2012

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Point to Ponder:
How are you choosing to live? Are you choosing to live a life filled with health, joy and purpose?

Anne Jarvis

by Anne Jarvis

When I was 17 and a junior in high school, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Over the next ten years she had two radical mastectomies and eventually died of bone cancer that had spread throughout her body. She was only 59 years old. She was exceptionally brave, a strong believer, fiercely loved by her family and friends and was joyful, even until the end. When I think of my mom’s tremendous bravery and characteristics, I always think of three things:

  1. Believe In Miracles. When she became ill this was the little sign          that sat near her bed.
  2. This is the day that the Lord hath made. Rejoice and be glad in it. She would greet each day with these words.
  3. Have fun. These were her final words. When she passed away, I was an emotional and physical wreck. I lost twenty pounds in a month, was having regular panic attacks, had to quit work and was suffering from situational depression.

Over the next year I had to heal from this place of sadness and one thing I did everyday was walk outdoors and repeat—“God will see you through.” But my biggest ‘A-ha moment’ was when a therapist I was seeing said, “Anne, what are you going to do if you never feel any better than this?” It was at that moment I was given the choice of how I wanted to live my life. I decided I wanted to reclaim a place of health, joy and purpose. I wanted a rich and full life filled with highs and lows. I wanted to live each day as if it could be my last.

I recognize that while life is filled with tremendous blessings, it is also filled with painful moments of loss and great sadness. For me, I have come to my own personal crossroads that has caused me to make choices on how I will continue to live my life. For example, I value my family and friends, my faith, my health, my community, and the freedom to be my authentic self. I want to live each day knowing that I have made a difference not just to myself, but to others. I want people to think of me as someone that didn’t take herself too seriously and found humor in life. I want to keep learning, have a sense of wonder, remain grateful for the life I have been given while also looking towards the future. I want every day to count and have no regrets.

A life with no regrets or living each day like it could be your last is definitely easier said than done. I’ve found that I must face my fears, take risks, believe in myself, take a deep breath and put that foot on the floor each new day. Just this week I have found myself full of fear about having to make the decision to take the Brac breast cancer gene test. I don’t want to find out if I carry the predisposition for breast cancer, but the results might save mine and my daughters’ lives. And, if I claim to value health, then I must do the hard work. Life’s hardships build character and what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.

This is why I love iGnite — as women we are on life’s journey together, helping each other, encouraging each other to live full and happy lives. We are growing physically, mentally and spiritually. We are there for each other in joy and sorrow. So, from the wisdom of a woman who joyfully lived as she was dying, I encourage you to: Believe in Miracles, Rejoice in Each Day, Have Fun.

Action Item:
Choose to live a purpose-filled life while believing in miracles, rejoicing each day and having fun!


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Living Your Why Nots

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A secret to a rich life is to have more beginnings than endings.
-David Weinbaum

Point To Ponder:
Will you answer your ‘why nots?’ with excuses and keep putting life off or will you saddle up, take the bull by the horns, and ride into the sunset?

Action Item:
Compile a list of your ‘why nots?’ and without a single excuse, start now! (Example: Why not learn to swim? Why not learn another language? Why not start or finish the day in prayer?)

by Neissa Springmann

by Neissa Springmann

A few weeks ago, Kathleen Parker and I were asked if we were planning to compete in the Austin Fittest Competition. I responded with a “no”, while Kathleen quietly and humbly said that she was considering it, especially after having seeing the movie, We Bought a Zoo. She explained that during the movie Matt Damon described (to his children) how he had met his wife, their mother. He told them that he spotted her in a coffee shop and was instantly mesmerized. He very easily could have let the fear of rejection dissuade him from approaching her, but instead he asked himself “Why not?” and decided to say hello. Needless to say, they fell in love and ended up a married two-some.

Interestingly, this was the last that Kathleen and I discussed anything about the competition, until one week later when I found out that that she placed first in her age division… INCREDIBLE!  Upon learning about her tremendous success, we celebrated over a delicious slice of chocolate cake while reviewing the details of her event. Ironically, upon arriving, Kathleen was completely unaware that she would compete with a Camp Mabry size group of competitors, which I can honestly say would have intimidated me to the point of becoming ill… but not Kathleen. Instead, she enthusiastically adopted the “Why Not” attitude and gave 100% effort in the following fit tests:

  1. Standing Medicine Ball ThrowKathleenParker-1
  2. Standing Broad Jump
  3. 40 Yard Dash
  4. Agility Cone Run
  5. Precision Throw
  6. Pull Ups (until giving up)
  7. Burpees (one minute)
  8. Hand Grip
  9. Interval Run
  10. 1 Mile Run

Read about Kathleen’s competition story here

What I love about Kathleen’s story is that she did not let the fear of the unknown or failure stop her from trying. After all, what did she have to lose? Money? No. The registration fee was only $35.00. Pride? No. She wasn’t participating for the notoriety. An opportunity to meet new people, try something new and encounter a physical and mental challenge? YES! In addition and most importantly, Kathleen was honoring her spirit by participating in something that she wanted to do. Had she not at least tried, she would’ve always wondered and possibly had regret, which in my opinion is the worst thing we can do to ourselves and others. Inspiration begets inspiration and fortunately, Kathleen has two amazing parental role models, Marjorie and Bill, who gave her a foundation of confidence and continue to be sources of strength.

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.  -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Unfortunately, I never had the blessing of meeting Mrs. Swinney, however Kathleen describes her as unconditionally kind, faithful, calm and compassionate, even while raising six children! And, she always encouraged Kathleen to try her very best and chase her wildest dreams. Today happens to be Marjorie’s birthday and there is no doubt that she is a very proud mother.

As for Kathleen’s father, at 88 (almost 89), Mr. Swinney is one of a kind, as he is the definition of hard work, perseverance and strength. I have had the fortunate experience of meeting him several times and there’s no doubt that he is living life in a BIG kind of way. For example, he recently sold his house and ranch (that he built) to now prepare for the adventure to personally build another. He doesn’t believe in downfalls, but rather views them as challenges to learn from and overcome. Age for Bill is simply a number and will never limit his goals and aspirations.

With or without encouraging parents, we’ve all experienced setbacks and disappointments, which have most likely created scar tissue around our spirits (our hearts). However and fortunately, scar tissue can be broken down and doesn’t have to stop you from pursuing a career, hobby, relationship, activity, new habit or the life you’ve always wanted! In fact, you have the final say in what you can do with your life. It’s not up to fate, money or anyone else to pursue your spirit’s callings. It is your responsibility to fill your life with moments of insane courage, embarrassing bravery and give yourself the gift of living your why nots. After all, why not?

 

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I Will Live Each Day As If It Could Be My Last

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Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely, in a well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting, “Yahooooooo, what a ride!”   -Mavis Leyrer

by Anne Jarvis

by Anne Jarvis

When I was 17 and a junior in high school, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Over the next ten years she had two radical mastectomies and eventually died of bone cancer that had spread throughout her body. She was only 59 years old. She was exceptionally brave, a strong believer, fiercely loved by her family and friends and was joyful, even until the end. When I think of my mom’s tremendous bravery and characteristics, I always think of three things.

  1. *Believe In Miracles* When she became ill this was the little sign that sat near her bed.
  2. *This is the day that the Lord hath made. Rejoice and be glad in it*  She would greet each day with these words.
  3. *Have fun*  These were her final words.

When she passed away, I was an emotional and physical wreck. I lost twenty pounds in a month, was having regular panic attacks, had to quit work and was suffering from situational depression.  Over the next year I had to heal from this place of sadness and one thing I did everyday was walk outdoors and repeat—“God will see you through.” But my biggest ‘A-ha moment’ was when a therapist I was seeing said, “Anne, what are you going to do if you never feel any better than this?”  It was at that moment I was given the choice of how I wanted to live my life. I decided I wanted to reclaim a place of health, joy and purpose. I wanted a rich and full life filled with highs and lows. I wanted to live each day as if it could be my last.

I recognize that while life is filled with tremendous blessings, it is also filled with painful moments of loss and great sadness. For me, I have come to my own personal crossroads that has caused me to make choices on how I will continue to live my life. For example, I value my family and friends, my faith, my health, my community, and the freedom to be my authentic self. I want to live each day knowing that I have made a difference not just to myself, but to others. I want people to think of me as someone that didn’t take herself too seriously and found humor in life. I want to keep learning, have a sense of wonder, remain grateful for the life I have been given while also looking towards the future. I want every day to count and have no regrets.

A life with no regrets or living each day like it could be your last is definitely easier said than done. I’ve found that I must face my fears, take risks, believe in myself, take a deep breath and put that foot on the floor each new day. Just this week I have found myself full of fear about having to make the decision to take the Brac breast cancer gene test. I don’t want to find out if I carry the predisposition for breast cancer, but the results might save mine and my daughters’ lives. And, if I claim to value health, then I must do the hard work. Life’s hardships build character and what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.

This is why I love iGnite — as women we are on life’s journey together, helping each other, encouraging each other to live full and happy lives. We are growing physically, mentally and spiritually. We are there for each other in joy and sorrow. So, from the wisdom of a woman who joyfully lived as she was dying, I encourage you to: Believe in Miracles, Rejoice in Each Day, Have Fun and allow yourself to be moved by closing your eyes and hearing the inspirational words of Tim McGraw in this video.

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