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Be Love

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Point to Ponder:
Do your thoughts, words and actions produce love for yourself?

iGnite Neissa

by Neissa Brown Springmann

Last week I received a very kind compliment. It was one that I didn’t feel deserving of but none-the-less it was greatly appreciated, especially because I wasn’t having the most confident day or week. And, since being called out by a good friend many years ago and her telling me that I needed to work on receiving compliments because it was incredibly rude when I rejected them, I have changed my tune. You know, the standard compliment rejection goes like this:

Friend to You: “Hi You! Your hair looks amazing!”

You to Friend (response #1): “Oh my gosh–it’s a mess and sooo dirty. I haven’t washed it in days and just threw some dry shampoo in it. It’s so gross, I haven’t showered in three days, I barely even brushed my teeth this morning and you don’t even want to step inside my house….. etc. etc.

You to Friend (response #2): “Thank you! Your hair is amazing too!”

My wise friend explained that compliments are verbal sunshine and they should always be received with a big smile and a “thank you” (no extras needed and no compliment exchange necessary). Maybe it’s a universal female thing or maybe it’s an American female thing–I have no idea, but what I do know is that we are entirely too critical of ourselves, and learning how to graciously accept a compliment is one of the first steps to learning how to love ourselves, be loved, love others and being love. In addition, little ears are always paying attention, so whether you have nieces, sisters, daughters, granddaughters or just other female ears around, we are leading by example and they are always listening and learning.

And so, as Valentine’s Day is upon us and love is swirling all around, I encourage you to practice loving yourself by not only graciously accepting a compliment with a “thank you” and a smile, but by also speaking words of love and kindness to yourself. “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7

Finally, I also encourage you to print our “I Love Your Because” love notes HERE so you can inform those who you love why you love them, or what you love about them. It’s a sweet and fun card that fits great in a wallet, lunchbox, backpack or taped on a mirror, around the house or in a car. It’s super simple yet very effective for both the giver and receiver. And, don’t forget about yourself. Write a love note to yourself, telling your body, mind and spirit what you love so much about them, and then watch your level of gratitude and appreciation for your body and whole self sore! Here’s to loving yourself, being loved, loving others and being love!


Action Item:
Print our “I Love Your Because” love notes so you can inform those who you love why you love them, or what you love so much about them. Also, write a love note to yourself, telling your body, mind and spirit what you love so much about them.


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“I love you like crazy, baby, ‘Cuz I’d go crazy without you.”
-Pixie Foundre

Point to Ponder:
When was the last time you told someone not just that you love them, but why you love them??

by Neissa Brown Springmann

by Neissa Brown Springmann

Personalities are interesting — in my family, my mom and I have no problem expressing our emotions and saying, ‘I love you.’ Outwardly, we are more emotionally expressive and the thought of not telling someone we love ‘I love you’ feels really bad.  On the flip-side, my dad and sister are the opposite and hold their emotions much closer to their hearts. They do say “I love you”, but most of the time it comes as a response to being told “I love you” and their response is “I love you, too.” There was a time when I took this personally and didn’t understand, but I’ve learned that we have our own comfort levels with love and thanks to the book The Five Love Languages, I’ve learned that we all express love differently.

After giving the words “I love you” some thought, I do think telling the people we love “I love you” on a regular basis is very important, but what I think would be more meaningful for both the giver and receiver is telling the people we love why we love them.

Because saying “I love you” can be a phrase that is used routinely, and writing “I love you” and signing our name on a purchased Hallmark card can be an easy way out, wouldn’t it be nice if the people we love received a note from us stating why we love them? I tried this out on my son Durant last week, and while he’s only four years old, his face lit up when I told him why I loved him and then we both got the giggles, followed by a hug and kiss. If you have a teenager, he or she might roll their eyes, but deep down they will appreciate it, a lot. And it will most definitely make the day of any adult.

So, in the spirit of loving yourself and loving others, I invite you to join me in telling the special people in your life why you love them by giving them one of these special Love Notes.

For some added love humor, I really recommend you watch Will Ferrell, Jimmy Fallon and Kevin Hart perform a few love songs that will have you rolling and in stitches. It’s a love performance you won’t want to miss!

Action Item:
Print, fill out and give the people you love a special iGnite Love Note, telling them why you love them.

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