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Being “Good Enough”

You Are Good Enough

“Good enough means being able to accept who and where we are with grace and gratitude and being content with ourselves as works in progress.” — Kristin Armstrong

Action Item:
Accept yourself in the here and now, realizing you are a work in progress and God is not yet through with you.

by Amy Younkman

by Amy Younkman

Have you ever struggled with the feeling that you are not “good enough?”

I recall being in 3rd grade and feeling sadly disappointed with all A’s, and a B in Penmanship on my report card. I thought my handwriting was good, but it wasn’t “good enough.” As a teen I struggled with feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance. I was never “thin enough” or “confident enough.” Then, as a busy Mom of three, one of my favorite free-time activities was training for triathlons. One year, I placed 3rd (in my age group) in a sprint triathlon and decided I could do better, so I trained harder. The next year I came in 2nd place and elusive 1st place was never an option, as the triathlon series was discontinued. Equally elusive were my feelings of being “good enough.”

I now know why God graced me with my three children. They were pre-destined to be some of my greatest teachers. At age 16 and in a fit of frustration, I recall my oldest daughter blurting out “Nothing is ever good enough for you!” Taking the comment to heart, I began a long, slow journey of learning to let go of desired outcomes and needing to control what I perceived as the necessary end result. I passionately want the best for my kids and for myself, therefore I continually struggle to ease up on my expectations and instead, to learn the lessons the present has to offer.

Meanwhile, the little voice in my head continues to taunt me… “Are you really a good enough Mom, wife, friend, yoga teacher??”  I have to stop, breathe and ask for help. I realize I am an imperfect human who, though flawed, does the best she can with a faith-filled heart. And then I offer the rest to God. Doing this frees me from the need to be perfect and in control. Divine design is constantly working through me, and I am only a small vessel amidst a fleet of God’s angels.

My yoga mat is a laboratory for my life. Every day offers new experiments and discoveries. I have found immense peace of mind through merely showing up on my mat, paying attention to my breath, and letting my body guide me as it opens and unfolds in it’s own time to receive grace. Learning to receive is a lesson unto itself. I don’t have to be a superstar on the mat; just showing up, willing to learn is “good enough.”

iGniters come to class starting where they are, taking one step at a time toward their goals...realizing that we are all "works in progress."

iGniters come to class starting where they are, taking one step at a time toward their goals…realizing that we are all “works in progress.”

The beauty I have found in iGnite is that we don’t measure success by inches lost, pounds shed, or winning times; instead we focus on nurturing relationships, finding fun in the everyday, and being fed in body, mind and spirit. If we can do that, it is most definitely “good enough.”

I challenge you to look at your own life vocation (and yes, motherhood is a vocation) and ask yourself, “Am I good enough?” Let the Weekly Intention Guide inspire you. Today may be different from yesterday, or tomorrow. Accept yourself in the here and now, realizing you are a work in progress and God is not yet through with you.

And for all moms, step-moms and future moms-to-be, you’ll want to check out this weeks video, as it features a new and hysterical online motherhood show based on true motherhood stories. Sharing, accepting and laughing at our successes and opportunities (including those of our children, spouse, family and friends) is the key to everyone “feeling good enough.”

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Putting the Cart Before the Horse

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We are refreshed and renewed by gratitude. It’s a powerful force, able to transform any mood or circumstance.
— Kristin Armstrong

Action Item:
End and begin each day with a grateful spirit and acknowledge at least one thing you are grateful for. This new habit, more than any other, will lead to all positive change in the New Year and a legacy filled life.

by Neissa Springmann

by Neissa Springmann

As I mentioned in the introduction journal of this Journey, the New Year is one of my favorite times. I wish I could say it’s because I’m a party animal who rings it in with bells, whistles, confetti and champagne, but it’s actually just the opposite. The perfect New Year’s Eve for me is a nice and quiet dinner with wine and dessert, comfy (and roomy) PJ’s on no later than 10:00 p.m, relaxing in bed and channel surfing by 10:30 p.m. and asleep before the clock strikes midnight.

But, what also comes prior to the New Year is a holiday filled with sweet family time, lots of napping and “activities” that require no thinking, which is code for “doing nothing.” Basically, I hibernate to celebrate and have found this is the best thing I can do to recharge my battery and become re-inspired. It’s also a cleansing opportunity, as I forgive myself for what I didn’t accomplish during the previous year, re-evaluate my life and goals, and become refocused and committed so I can be, feel and give my best everyday. Could use a little guidance on putting the notion of thankfulness into action? That’s what this Weekly Intention Guide is for!

On the flip side, however, due to getting so excited about the new year and have an all-or-nothing personality, I am eager to quickly accomplish all of my goals. Consequently I bite off WAY more than I can chew, put the horse before the cart, and the end result is fatigue, failure and back to square one before the end of January! So…this year I have decided to put the cart before the horse and start the process at a much slower, methodical and intentional pace. Rather than try to replace all of my bad habits at once, I am going to add one positive habit to my life each week, with the first being gratitude.

Kristin Armstrong wisely suggests in her Heart of my Heart devotional book that “We are refreshed and renewed by gratitude. It’s a powerful force, able to transform any mood or circumstance.” It’s the same concept as the Law of Attraction and “light attracting light;” when we end and begin each day with a grateful spirit, acknowledging at least one thing that we are grateful for, our mindset shifts, our spirit is joyful and even the worst situation is viewed as an opportunity rather than an obstacle. We highly recommend starting a gratitude journal, and here’s an easy step-by-step way to do so:

We are very fortunate because THE PERFECT gratitude opportunity awaits us during week one of our Journey. After having a week of above normal temperatures, this week presents the opposite conditions. The ARTIC BLAST of 2011 is blowing in, which can make getting outside to iGnite Your Life more challenging. Therefore, rather than focus on the 2.5 days of below average temperatures and five minutes (max) of cold discomfort, an idea for your first gratitude opportunity is go to bed and wake up being thankful to be alive and well. Because being alive and well, after all is what alone provides us with infinite freedoms, especially if we never let any thing, person or past experience play a role in our health, happiness and future! It’s just a suggestion 🙂

We have SO much to be thankful for at ignite...this amazing city full of green parks, trails and lakes, supportive friends, and our friends to inspire us to continue iGniting our lives.

We have SO much to be thankful for at ignite…this amazing city full of green parks, trails and lakes, supportive friends, and our friends to inspire us to continue iGniting our lives.

I’m embarrassed to admit that I am 100% guilty of what the man in our video of the week suggests women to be guilty of, but I am! But, despite the urge to put the horse before the cart, we’re going to take the intention of living our legacy in a systematic manner — building upon one positive habit after another, with laying the gratitude brick first. I encourage you to watch the video in its entirety, as it is SPOT ON and hysterical, and laughing will put you in a grateful mindset more quickly than anything.

JOIN THE DISCUSSION- What are five things you are thankful for…right now?

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