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Thank God for Girlfriends

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“In friendship…we think we have chosen our peers. In reality a few years’ difference in the dates of our births, a few more miles between certain houses, the choice of one university instead of another….the accident of a topic being raised or not raised at a first meeting — any of these chances might have kept us apart. Friendship is not a reward for our discriminating and good taste in finding one another out. It is the instrument by which God reveals to each of us the beauties of others.”                -C.S. Lewis

Point To Ponder:
Do your girlfriends lift you up and add value to your life?

Action Item:
Make a phone call or send an email, text, or hand-written note and express your love and gratitude to at least one girlfriend this week.

About Neissa

by Neissa Springmann

A few weeks ago, Cary, our magnificent 6:00 a.m. yoga instructor came back from a girlfriend weekend and sent me our quote of the week. When I read it, I instantly knew it was an iGnite-caliber quote, as making new friends and growing our community of girlfriends is not only important, but it is a momentous part of life and of iGnite. In addition, I love the wisdom from C.S. Lewis, suggesting that meeting our friends is not luck or coincidence, rather it’s divine intervention and an opportunity for God to display our unique and beautiful qualities to one another.

Really, can you imagine life without girlfriends? I can’t, and as a matter of fact I don’t even want to think about it! Who else besides a girlfriend can understand why Dirty Dancing is still one of my all time favorite movies and why I turn into a teenager while watching it?! Better yet, when I’m experiencing spousal irritation, feeling like an inadequate mother or life is simply getting the best of me, only a girlfriend can lift my spirits with her relatable gifts, angelic words and fantastic sense of humor.

October is iGnite’s birthday month and we’ve officially turned six years old. Celebrating another year is always special; however, what’s most sacred are the friendships that have been formed and will continue to grow and blossom throughout the years to come. It is for this that we are dedicating Thursday evening to you and the very special friendships made through iGnite, providing us with an absolute reason to party! The atmosphere will be festive and filled with food, adult beverages, indulgences, door prizes and our new fall apparel. And, you just never know, we may even have Dirty Dancing tunes so we can live vicariously through the soundtrack and have the time of our life. We love you, appreciate you and hope you can make it!!!

Watch the video below to have a blast from the past and check out the fabulous and hysterical four minutes of Baby’s first encounter with Johnny. And look out  Dance Fit & Zumba — this is likely to inspire Betty!

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Always Better Alongside Girlfriends


Diva Dash 2011, Decker Lake: As in all things, a 5K recreational obstacle course is especially better alongside girlfriends. From left to right, Jill Watts, Lisa H, Kathleen Parker, Neissa Springmann, Anne H and Sheri O all joined iGnite Monarch forces and put on a big smile before hitting the course for some Saturday fun.

Wine is proof that God loves us and loves to see us happy.
— Benjamin Franklin

Action Item:
Be there with, and for, an old or new girlfriend (s). Embrace and appreciate their humor, loyalty and all they do to make life more enjoyable.

By Cary Fyfe

By Cary Fyfe

You might be pondering how the quotes in this post relate, but worry not, by the end of this journal, you will be thrilled by how much sense they make – so thrilled, in fact, that you will feel inspired to write down a particular celebration in your calendar. So get cozy, grab a cool drink and read on:

Back in the 80’s, the decade of voluminous fried hair and shoulder pads, I married my husband Trey and we moved to Los Angeles, the Land Where Cary Had No Friends. Well, Trey was my friend, but he entered his medical residency program at UCLA the day after we got there, and I saw him again four years later, the day before we moved back.

So there I was, in the City of Angels, seeking out a friend, any friend, anywhere and everywhere I went. Finally, there she was, in the long line in the women’s restroom at church. I was several people behind her, and I couldn’t help but hear her silky Southern drawl saying “just married,” “resident at UCLA” and “new in town.” Shameless, I cut in line (at church!), put my hand on her shoulder and proceeded to ask her if she’d be my best friend. And it was there and then that Andra and I became friends, and we clung together like glue as we adjusted to our new lives in L.A.

Soon we met Laurel, who was also a new bride in the big city, and the three of us journeyed together down the paths of new marriages, new jobs, new homes and plans for expanding our families. I loved these friends, and had always known that girlfriends were golden, but it wasn’t until one rainy day, in a yellow-hued hospital room, that I realized what it took to keep those bonds shining and purposeful.

One cold, wet L.A. afternoon, from a routine doctor visit I was rushed to the hospital for emergency surgery, with time only for a quick call to Trey. And bless his heart, the man knew by then how treasured my friends were to me. So because he was in a training program that didn’t allow him flexibility to be by my side continually, he knew where to go for help.

Pooh and Piglet walked home thoughtfully together in the golden evening, and for a long time, they were silent.
— The House at Pooh Corner

Later that day, surrounded by the yellow walls of that hospital room and hearing the rain pattering against the window, I began to awaken from my post-operative stupor. Bringing my eyes into focus to make sense of where I was, I looked around and saw that I had my own personal Tinker Bell – a life-sized fairy encircled in a warm light – rocking in a chair beside my bed. Her eyes were closed, and she had this peaceful smile on her face that I soon recognized as Laurel’s smile. In sweet silence, she was there.

She opened her eyes and let me know that she was commissioned by my crazy-wonderful husband for as long as I needed her, and as soon as I was able to string some words together to form a sentence, I expressed my deepest concern: “OMG, Laurel” (well, the 80’s version of that, which I don’t know anymore), “it seems that I have no control over what is happening inside of me right now, so prepare your delicate ears for some undignified sounds that might escape from my freaked-out body.” She continued to rock as my drunken words settled in, then let out a small giggle and said “Well then, if I get the urge, it’s good to know that I can just let it rip.”

It hurts to laugh when your belly has just been sliced open, then shut; but laugh I did, and as I continued to waken and sleep, waken and sleep, she sat quietly with me. And I would learn later that Andra stayed beside Trey while I was in surgery, and that she remained with him while the doctor showed him pictures of my innards and tried to help him make sense of it all. Additionally she had silently taken notes because she knew that later on I would need to hear the girl version of the doctor’s summary, several times retold, which she patiently and lovingly did. Girlfriends…I understood that day…golden.

Girls working out and doing life together. Perfect afternoon at Molly's 6PM Cross Training at Pease Park.

Girls working out and doing life together. Perfect afternoon at Molly’s 6PM Cross Training at Pease Park.

Several years, children and colorful stories later, Laurel, Andra and I still remain close friends. When circumstances scattered us across the country and into our permanent homes, we knew what to do to stay connected. It was simple – we were there. When babies were born, we were there. When problems darken our days, we are still there. When milestones occur and we are given a chance to raise a glass to one another, we are there. Check out the Weekly Intention Guide for a quick ‘how-to’ for help scheduling in some important girlfriend time.

You too, beautiful iGniters, can “be there.” Like Pooh and Piglet, we are tremendously blessed to have this community of friends who commune “thoughtfully together” in both “golden” mornings and evenings. In the silence of just knowing we have each others’ support, we share mats, dreaded green garter bands, sun salutations, lake views, and adventurous moments where we leave our comfort zones. We are there for each other and I’m so very grateful for that. This Tuesday, we can raise a glass to the beauty of each other from 5:00 – 7:00 for happy hour, around iGniter Christie S’s pool. We will also have a speaker from the Mamma Jamma Ride there — another great opportunity to share and soar with your girlfriends. I hope to see you on Tuesday to joyfully celebrate our community together!

Now, continue sipping that cool drink while you watch these spirited communities (a little something for any “Manarchs” too) celebrating in this short video!

JOIN THE DISCUSSION- When was the last time you shared your appreciation of your girlfriends with them?

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