“You will get there when you are meant to get there and not one moment sooner… so relax, breathe, be patient and trust the process. Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”
– Mandy Hale/Lao Tzu
Point to Ponder:
Are you consumed with wanting all of your questions answered now?
Do you ever struggle with taking consistent action and trusting “the plan” in order to see your goals and dreams become reality? And if you don’t wrestle with this issue, would you please join my mentor club and share your wisdom with me?? Because I constantly struggle with it!
As I’ve referenced in the past two journals, during the first three years of iGnite I worked with a business coach, and during all of my ‘intention’ work and goal-setting, I inevitably found myself asking the same overwhelming and reoccurring question: “How and when is this going to happen?”, to which Michelle (my coach) would always respond, “You have to trust the process and keep doing the work. You can’t predict it or plan how it will happen. It will happen how and when it’s supposed to happen.” And it turns out, Michelle was always right and the answers always turned out much better than I could’ve planned or hoped for.
This “process trusting/surrendering practice” is much easier said than done because it requires patience…which is completely counter-intuitive to me. As the majority of us were taught, if we want something badly enough, we must work long and hard to make it happen….and trusting, practicing faith and waiting is not only very challenging, but it opposes the American dream philosophy and culture! However, over time I’ve learned that once we acquire the vision, set the intention, ask for what we want and add diligent hard work, all there is left to do is surrender, trust and have faith in the process. And, it’s in the waiting where the magical and mysterious *refinement process begins.
*Side note: Refinement = the process of removing impurities and unwanted elements from a substance; or, the improvement of something by making the small changes.
This weekend, I had the extraordinary opportunity to attend Oprah’s Live Your Best Life conference in Houston, where pastor and author Rob Bell spoke. Though I had never heard of Rob before, everything he said resonated with me. In regard to practicing patience and trusting the process of life, he reminded us that we are the recipients of a gift, which is life, and while we should always shoot for the moon and strive to become our best by setting goals and pursuing our dreams, the life we want begins by embracing our existing life. By being in constant pursuit of results, we are unable to see and receive the miracles that surround us every second of the day.
Rather than judge our life based on accomplishments or goals attained, how about we strive to simply trust the process and embrace the mystery and miracles that each day brings? As poet Mark Nepo suggests in this week’s video (below), our life isn’t enriched by achievement, accomplishment, or striving to become someone or something, rather the aliveness and refinement process beings when we jump feet-first into doing what we love, with no strings attached. Now that’s what I am talking about!
Watch the video below, and rather than judge your life based on accomplishments or goals attained, strive to trust the process and embrace the mystery and miracles that each day brings.