The Need for Connectedness – Continued from Are you In the Game or On the Sidelines?
Point to Ponder:
When do you get the most offended in your interactions with people?
With the help of iGnite member and business coach Martha Lynn Mangum, I have learned that one of my core values is connectedness. And as I have considered my fears, I’ve realized that one of my related fears is not being and feeling connected.
I value all of my relationships, and when I love you, I love you hard. Before learning that connectedness was one of my core values, when I felt left out or distant from a friend, instead of reaching out to him or her, my fear-based reaction was to withdraw, as this was how I would attempt to protect my heart. Of course I know this isn’t the best or most mature response, but it’s the truth.
Now, since being made aware that connectedness is one of my core values, when I start to feel like it’s being ‘violated,’ I can now identify where that feeling is coming from, work with the facts rather than my assumptions, and move on.
All in all, I need relationships, and I especially love the feeling of connectedness — which is why I love iGnite so much! 🙂
Recognize that your reaction could be a result of your personal core values instead of the fault of others. Notice how this changes the way you view and internalize the situation.
You May Also Like:
Pingback: I’ll be Honest, I’m Not Good at Change! | the iGnite blog
Pingback: More In Common Than We Think | the iGnite blog